Comments on: The Discussion on Polyamory / People With More Than One Romantic Partner http://elizabethslittleblog.wordpress.com/2007/07/08/the-discussion-on-polyamory-people-with-more-than-one-romantic-partner/ Mon, 28 Dec 2009 02:45:08 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Susie Bright on Polyamory « Elizabeth’s Little Blog http://elizabethslittleblog.wordpress.com/2007/07/08/the-discussion-on-polyamory-people-with-more-than-one-romantic-partner/#comment-13918 Susie Bright on Polyamory « Elizabeth’s Little Blog Wed, 02 Jan 2008 18:10:22 +0000 http://elizabethslittleblog.wordpress.com/2007/07/08/the-discussion-on-polyamory-people-with-more-than-one-romantic-partner/#comment-13918 [...] and I don’t want to reignite some sort of dramatic blogosphere discussion (as happenend in July). But I did want to point out Susie Bright’s recent posting on polyamory, “Peppermint, [...] [...] and I don’t want to reignite some sort of dramatic blogosphere discussion (as happenend in July). But I did want to point out Susie Bright’s recent posting on polyamory, “Peppermint, [...]

]]> By: The Strange Credibility of Polyamory « freaksexual http://elizabethslittleblog.wordpress.com/2007/07/08/the-discussion-on-polyamory-people-with-more-than-one-romantic-partner/#comment-12302 The Strange Credibility of Polyamory « freaksexual Tue, 27 Nov 2007 07:31:27 +0000 http://elizabethslittleblog.wordpress.com/2007/07/08/the-discussion-on-polyamory-people-with-more-than-one-romantic-partner/#comment-12302 [...] positive attitude seems to be replicated in most left-wing discussions of polyamory, for example among Unitarians, in Pagan circles, and in queer communities (though BDSM is also generally accepted in the LGBT [...] [...] positive attitude seems to be replicated in most left-wing discussions of polyamory, for example among Unitarians, in Pagan circles, and in queer communities (though BDSM is also generally accepted in the LGBT [...]

]]> By: mskitty http://elizabethslittleblog.wordpress.com/2007/07/08/the-discussion-on-polyamory-people-with-more-than-one-romantic-partner/#comment-4019 mskitty Mon, 09 Jul 2007 13:26:40 +0000 http://elizabethslittleblog.wordpress.com/2007/07/08/the-discussion-on-polyamory-people-with-more-than-one-romantic-partner/#comment-4019 My stance on this so far has been that if I were asked, as a minister, to sanctify a polyamorous relationship, I would not do so. My reason for this stance is that I simply do not know of poly relationships which are longtime and successful. I have no personal acquaintance with poly families (at least as far as I know now), though I know one couple with children which calls itself a poly family and is looking for another mate. What I have seen is nonmonogamous men/women who want their mates to sanction their extramarital sexual relationship(s). I am dubious about the success rate of poly relationships. I would not be in favor of a public statement championing the legalization of poly marriages. I don't think it's the same thing as same-sex marriage. There is a lot of evidence that same sex marriages are successful and longterm and good for children. There is not that same body of evidence, as far as I can tell, for poly marriage. My stance on this so far has been that if I were asked, as a minister, to sanctify a polyamorous relationship, I would not do so. My reason for this stance is that I simply do not know of poly relationships which are longtime and successful. I have no personal acquaintance with poly families (at least as far as I know now), though I know one couple with children which calls itself a poly family and is looking for another mate.

What I have seen is nonmonogamous men/women who want their mates to sanction their extramarital sexual relationship(s).

I am dubious about the success rate of poly relationships. I would not be in favor of a public statement championing the legalization of poly marriages. I don’t think it’s the same thing as same-sex marriage. There is a lot of evidence that same sex marriages are successful and longterm and good for children. There is not that same body of evidence, as far as I can tell, for poly marriage.

]]> By: the Lively Traditionalist http://elizabethslittleblog.wordpress.com/2007/07/08/the-discussion-on-polyamory-people-with-more-than-one-romantic-partner/#comment-4007 the Lively Traditionalist Mon, 09 Jul 2007 05:08:49 +0000 http://elizabethslittleblog.wordpress.com/2007/07/08/the-discussion-on-polyamory-people-with-more-than-one-romantic-partner/#comment-4007 I call the distinction you make between how we treat folks in multi-partnered relationships in our congregation and whether we should think those relationships should be legalized etc. as the difference between the pastoral and public ministry. It's an important distinction, but the two spheres overlap at some point. Do you say that 3-person relationships are as "socially beneficial", or "morally equivalent", or "just as good as" 2-person relationships, even if all you doing is talking within the congregation? Once your pastoral support for people in 3-person relationships includes general statements validating those relationships, you have moved into another kind of ministry, one that I very reluctant to do. I call the distinction you make between how we treat folks in multi-partnered relationships in our congregation and whether we should think those relationships should be legalized etc. as the difference between the pastoral and public ministry. It’s an important distinction, but the two spheres overlap at some point. Do you say that 3-person relationships are as “socially beneficial”, or “morally equivalent”, or “just as good as” 2-person relationships, even if all you doing is talking within the congregation? Once your pastoral support for people in 3-person relationships includes general statements validating those relationships, you have moved into another kind of ministry, one that I very reluctant to do.

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